Ok, so I haven't been very good about updating the blog -- I need to get better at this! It's a new years resolution, but don't hold me to it :).
As for the updates, I guess it's that time -- I'll do my best to keep it concise and complete...
I can now somewhat talk about the situation going on with my mom. I can't tell everything, but I can at least talk about it.
Basically, back in October, my mom took too much medicine. She didn't overdose, but she did take two doses to close together. This caused her to become "loopy" (her words) and she doesn't remember a whole lot from that day. She remembers going to my grandmother's (her mom's) and she remembers going to Kmart and most everything after. Everything before is a blur. While at Kmart, a former friend came in to talk to her, after she had already told him that she'd call him and meet him at her house when she was done at Kmart. Well he didn't listen. He went to Kmart anyways, pestering her, and she got quite distracted. At this point, this is the major breakdown of what happened. She was in line to complete a return, she did that, was given a gift card and a reciept. This "friend" asked her if he could take her basket to the car (in an effort to hurry her up), and she told him no -- she hadn't paid yet. She did ask him to go back to the electroincs counter and pay for a CD she wanted (Brook's and Dunn's Greatest Hits, I do believe), and that she'd pay for her basket and then she'd be done. Well, he wouldn't go back and get the CD, and she got frustrated, and with her checkbook and debit card in hand, walked out of Kmart with her basket, without paying. There was no intent to steal anything -- if anything, that should have been obvious with the fact that her checkbook and debit card were both out. She got stopped when she got to her car (not too far from the door), and when asked to produce a reciept, she thought she had it, handed the one from the return to the guy, and thought all was fine. Turns out, it was fine. The first security guard was going to have her go back in, pay, and be done with it. The second, decided no, she was doing this on purpose and she was going to be arrested. They called the cops and she was arrested and sent to jail (since that's usually what happens when you go to jail).
All in all, this has been a long journey. However, I'm thrilled to say that the journey is almost to a close. After speaking with the County Attorney, the charges will be dismissed, we are waiting on a court date. My mom does have to complete some community service hours, as the CA doesn't want her to think that this wasn't serious -- but that's all. He believes, after seeing the evidence from her Dr. that the medicine levels were appropriate and within range for what she has been prescribed. We are all extremely grateful to the CA here, along with her attorney, that this is going to be taken care of and dismissed.
As a sidenote -- what really bothered me about this entire situation wasn't that my mom was arrested -- that's happened before -- the previous DUI's that she committed back in the mid 90s, it's the way this occurred and the person who had her arrested. I may sound bitter and angry, and in many ways, I still am. The second security guard who said she had intent to steal and did this on purpose was a man she had helped previously when she was on the police department. Helping him is when she initially was injured on the job. She slipped and fell while chasing 2 shoplifters through the Kmart parking lot in 1984, after being asked by this individual to help him with a shoplifiting problem. So, she helped him, she was injured, Kmart was never held responsible for any of her injuries, yet this same man has her arrested, when there was no concealing of any merchandise, no intent shown -- just did it. Then claims to me (after telling me that my mother is a drug addict who needs to be in rehab and is also in dire need to psychological help) that he cried in his office because he HAD to arrest her. Well, I don't believe any of what he had to say -- as I was once a security guard, and I remember using my best judgement to determine how to handle someone that was a shoplifting suspect. I can tell you, I never had anyone arrested just because the accidently pushed their entire basket out without paying, with a checkbook and debit/credit card in hand. But then again, I'm a much more compassionate person than most, so I guess that I don't count.
Anyway, that's been the majority of what's been going on here. Christmas is the next topic to cover...
Christmas was good -- we had a good Christmas, split the actual day between my mom and Nathan's parents. We then spent the following day with my dad and stepfamily. I really enjoyed Christmas this year with the stepfamily, more so than last year. I feel like we're much more like a family now than before, and for that, I'm grateful. I'm also grateful that we're not the only ones without kids. My stepsister and one of my stepbrothers don't have kids, so we weren't alone. Although, I think if my stepsister had her way, they would have kids -- however, her health will not allow them to have kids -- and possibly it won't even allow them to adopt, as she could decline rapidly at any time. She has MS -- but it is deterioating at a speed that I haven't seen with anyone else that I've known to have MS. She spent 3 months practically living in the dark because of her optical nerve. She had to quit her job as a successful attorney because she couldn't go out of the house for work, nor could she spend more than 10 to 15 minutes in front of the computer without being in severe pain because of the opitcal nerve.
New Years was pretty uneventful. We went to James' house for a "party", that was basically just us, James, and two other people. James' mom was there as well, and even poured champagne for all at midnight -- I didn't partake -- alcohol is not really my favorite thing in the whole world, plus, with TTC, I don't need to be partaking in it at all....
Yes you read that right -- we are TTC (trying to concieve)! We're both REALLY excited, but know that this is going to be a long process. I'll detail more in another post, but it's a great way to start 2009. We're hoping for a 2010 Baby, no matter the gender. We'll be happy with a healthy baby, whatever it comes out to be, but know that complications and issues are likely to arise and we must be ready to deal with them.
On the job front, I didn't get the job that I was so desperately wanting -- but that's ok. I'm sure that's because God has something much better coming for me, even if I hate not having a job. The worst part of not having a job for me is not having the option to shop when I'd like. That sounds shallow, but an example is that while Nathan and I were at the mall over the weekend (spending my Build-a-Bear giftcard that his parents gave me for Christmas), I went in Bath and Body Works, and would have loved to have spent about $20 on stuff that while I didn't NEED it, I most definately WANTED it! If I had been working, we would have had the extra money that I could've spent, but as of now, all of our money goes into bills and savings, so that we have a cushion to fall back on, and that's important. Anyway, I'm waiting to hear from the company that hired Nathan, they have several positions getting ready to open up, and hopefully, I'll get to take one of them.
I think that's really it -- life in general is good. Living with my mom isn't easy, but I know right now it's the right thing. Not sure when she'll be ok to be on her own, but when that time comes, we'll find another place. Right now, she needs more help than I can give her from a different household, and being an only child, I must do what I have to do, all while being a good wife, and hopefully soon, a good mom :)
I'm out for now -- must go feed the horses and go with my grandmother to lunch. I'll hopefully post tomorrow about our struggles with TTC.
~Melissa~
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